Sexual Escalation Guide

ESP Model of Escalation

The ESP Model of Escalation is the structure of my escalation method that I use on woman and is the biggest factor in why I am able to consistently pull fast lays with hot women. The ESP Model is broken down like this:

Eye Contact


Physical Touch

In a nutshell, the ESP Model is used to create one major thing, sexual tension. Sexual Tension is often times what makes the woman want to sleep with you. The more sexual tension you build, and the faster you build it, the more a woman will want to sleep with you in order to release the tension.

Eye Contact

This one is pretty self explanatory but I’ll go over it anyways. Proper Eye Contact (EC) can be VERY powerful and can literally make any woman wet and excited. EC is so very powerful but also very underrated in the pickup community. This is because sexual EC is so simple and powerful that most people cant accept the power that EC has on women. They simply cant believe that it can be so easy to turn a woman on.

I use what I like to call “Laser Eyes.” Laser eyes is powerful but simple to do. While talking to a woman look into her eyes, gaze deeply, and imagine having sex with her at the same time. Imagine her doing sexy things to you and let your imagination run wild. Your eyes will communicate what your feeling, she will sense it and feel it to and become captivated by it all.

Most guys cant handle the major amount of sexual tension that EC of this nature creates and often times don’t hold it as long as they should. At first this will probably be uncomfortable for you but keep at it and eventually you will not only be comfortable with it but you will be having fun with it as well. Soon you will be comfortable with the tension and be a master at turning women on with your eyes alone.


The “S” in the ESP Model stands for “Sexualization” and encompasses all the things that give your interactions a sexual vibe which in turn creates sexual tension. This part of the ESP Model includes a lot of things, not all of which has to be done. Calibrate it to each specific interaction as using all of the following techniques may be overkill.

Silence and Pauses

When talking to a woman, using silence and introducing pauses can be very powerful. This includes talking slower and more sensual. Silence is a great tool to use to create more sexual tension in certain moments. For example…

You’re talking to a beautiful blond and you tell her there is a great late night food place that you should both bounce too. She responds, “Ummm, I don’t know…”

Instead of saying something, just look at her with a completely dead pan face and put the pressure on her to say something instead of bailing her out. Just look at her and hold it and most of the time she will respond favorably.

“well… ok, lets go!”


Introducing pauses to your speech is an excellent tool which will help you slow down and speak more sensually. Using pauses at key points creates anticipation and in turn creates sexual tension. I do this a lot when I’m saying something very sexual or seductive.


This is basically a fancy way of telling you to be close to the woman your seducing. 99% of all men stand way to far away when talking to a woman! You should be extremely close, almost nose to nose and sometimes even closer. And yes, you should be this close within minutes of talking to her. I know this can sound drastic but its true and the best way to do it. Being close, and being comfortable with being close not only shows that your extremely confident but it also creates a ton of sexual tension.

A good way to get close is to bring her into your space instead of invading hers. Take her hand while talking and just gently tug her into your space. Once you get good at this you can do it effortlessly and without bringing any attention to it. Talk about smooth!

Sexual Innuendo

Sexual Innuendo (SI) basically means saying one thing that can mean another thing sexually. This is best described using an example…

A woman that I pulled back to my place picked up a few golf balls I just happened to have laying on top of my dresser. I looked over at her, and with “laser eyes” said:

“I see you like playing with my balls.”

Be careful not to use this too often or it can get really lame and will be counter productive.


This little technique is one of my all time favorites. All you have to do is misinterpret stuff she says and make it sexual sounding. Again, much like SI, using this to much makes it lame and counter productive.

An example…

Girl: I seen you over there talking to those woman.

Me: Oh? So you have been staring at me the whole night.

This is really good stuff when used properly.

Sexual Overload

Sexual Overload (SO) is so amazingly powerful that I use it pretty much all the time. This one technique can and will make whatever woman your seducing so horny that pulling her back to a sex location becomes a piece of cake.

SO has three parts to it:

  1. Make a statement of intent (SOI)
  2. Being physical with her after SOI
  3. Blaming her for you being turned on

An example…

Me: Girl, your turning me on so much with that mini-skirt (SOI) *then run your hand down her side smoothly* Its totally YOUR fault I cant keep my hands off of you today!”

After that you let go and go back to doing whatever you was doing before. Pretend like what you just done never even happened. Then, a few minutes later, do it again. In effect what you doing is causing a bunch of tension and then letting the tension go and then repeating the process. This is POWERFUL.

Sexual Frames

Sexual Framing (SF), in essence, is making it to where the woman can behave sexually because she knows you wont judge her for it and that its appropriate and even good behavior for her to be sexual. SF will pretty much take away any “anti-slut defense” and because of that, this technique is a must use.

The best why I have found to use sexual frames is to use something I call “Behavior Shaping.”

Basically, this is making a mini cold read about her. If she has any interest in you at all, even just a little bit, she will want to live up to the cold read so not to disappoint you.

An example:

“I can tell that your a woman who knows how to have fun and goes after what she wants.”

“I can already tell that your a fun chick whos open to new experiences and wild adventures.”

“You seem pretty sexually aggressive which is cool because I respect women who goes after what they want.”

The effect of these is pretty obvious. It frames the whole interaction so that its normal and appropriate for her to be sexual and to be open to you about sexual stuff.

Sexual State

This one is pretty important so I saved it for last so that you will hopefully remember it better. Lets first talk about the golden rule of natural game:

“She feels what you feel.”

Your mood and sate are both contagious and can often transfer over to her. In a nutshell, if your feeling sexual and horny, she will too. A good way to make sure you in a sexual state is to imagine her doing sexual things to you.

Physcial Touch

This is my FAVORITE part of my ESP Model because I love to be physical and touch women.

Many guys often wonder how soon they should get physical and start being sexual. The answer often times surprises them. The correct answer is…

Right Away!

You should be getting physical right from the start. It is important, however, that you get physical the right way.

Sexualized Physical Game (SPG)

Most guys go about touching women in the wrong way. They give her a little shoulder touch when she says something funny, or gives her a little high five to reward her for something cool she does. Lame touches like these arn’t going to turn the woman on. She isn’ going to want to drop her pants and spred her legs because you gave her a tap on the shoulder or a small pat on the back. If anything she would just think your weird and honestly, she would be right.

The right way to touch a woman is to touch her like a man. Everything you do in an interaction with a woman should be “from a man to a woman” kind of way. Not as her friend, not as her buddy, but as a MAN.

You accomplish this by doing what I call “Sexualized Physical Game” or SPG for short.

SPG is all about being close (proximity) and holding her, stroking her hair, whispering into her ear, leading her by the hand, hand holding, hand caressing, picking her up and spinning her around, dancing, ect…

I like to treat a woman as if I’ve known her for years, even if I just met her. For instance, would I be afraid to pick a woman up and spin her around if I have known her for years? Of course not. I would do it without a second thought. I do it with women who I have known only a short amount of time. Because I’m comfortable with it, she will be too. Remember that golden rule of natural game? That applys here too!


In essence, that is the basics of my ESP Model of Escalation. It works wonders for me and I know that if you go out, practice and implement it, then it will work wonders for you as well.

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  1. This is a great write up on sexual escalation. Most guys lack skills not with being attractive(most every guy gets a few girls to like them) or even recognizing attraction(they feel like they like them) but with escalating sexually. This is a great read. There is a bit of 60 YOC influence I see in there.

  2. Chris says:

    strange, but although you’re a good writer in general, you contantly seem to confuse ‘your’ and ‘you’re’, which breaks the flow of reading in a very unsatisfactory way… that being told, I enjoyed reading this great sum-up!

  3. Socialkenny says:

    Stumbled upon this after googling sexual tension. Great guide. I needed this although I already pretty much do all of the steps already. My main prob’ however is closing that gap (physical) where I’d be standing too far. Closing the gap would seem to calculated even though I have ways to get her to encroach on my space as you said.

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